Time heals all wounds: This comforting sentence does not seem meant for separations to apply. Instead, often causes only a new partnership, the final solution of the copies or to this conclusion are psychologists at the University of Bonn in a recent study. Their results are published in the journal "Personal Relationships", but are already available online (doi: 10.1111/j.1475-6811.2010.01308.x).
The Bonn researchers used a trick look at the total of 144 participants in their study to the heart. At the beginning they asked their subjects after five most characteristic features of their ex-partners - such as first name, favorite music, hair color, or hobby.
Then the subjects a simple computer experiment conducted:
first appeared on the screen at random either one of these five characteristics, or a property that was related to any of the ex to do nothing. Directly after that, the monitor is a Chinese character. The subjects were then asked to push, whether this sign "pleasant" or "unpleasant" were. This procedure was repeated 60 times.
'attempts such as this project the participants their emotions on the characters, "says psychologist Robert Bonner Imhoff. "More specifically: Evaluate the character all the more enjoyable, the more positive their association with the previously shown expression was we speak of a false classification of emotions.."
An example: Hans was abandoned six months ago by Britta. In the experiment appears now and again for almost a tenth of a second of the name "Brian" on the monitor. Whenever that happens, Hans evaluated the following characters shown positive. He tells the fact that he is still in Brittany. This false association is automatic, so largely without conscious control. So much so that the participants can learn something about what he knew not himself.
Only someone who has come off the partner can positively talk about him
The researchers were able to test so as to keep their subjects implicitly by their ex-partners. In addition, they asked participants explicitly to the characteristics of their former lover - something like: "My ex-partner had many positive traits," or "My ex-partner is selfish." In addition, the subjects indicate how much they were satisfied with their current life situation.
result were more positive implicit attitude towards former partners, the more dissatisfied the participants with their lives. To exaggerate
said: Who in his or his ex is, is unhappy. This may sound a little surprising. "Amazingly, it is precisely with the explicit opinions but the other way around," said the head of the Bonn Social and Legal Psychology Prof. Dr. Rainer Banse: "Anyone who expresses positive about the ex-partner, tends more satisfied."
covers In some ways, this finding with our everyday experience: often grumbles at just the loudest about his ex-partner who is still inside the most about him. Good to talk about the former lover or ex is however a sign of sovereignty. And having one until you have completely finished with the broken relationship.
speaks for this interpretation is another observation: namely, to take The results only for singles. As soon as a new partner comes into being, the old relationship becomes less important. However, the researchers were surprised by another Results: Thus, there is no clear correlation between time since splitting and life satisfaction. "Our study shows that one can suffer from a very long separation," said Roland Imhoff. "Often appears only after a new relationship is also associated with a re-evaluation of the ex-partner to go, the loses its influence on the lives of happiness."
Contact:
Roland Imhoff
Department of Social & Political Psychology Institute of Psychology, University of Bonn
Phone: 0228/73-4190
Email: \u0026lt; rimhoff @ uni-bonn.de >
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